How does Family Grow?

A Family is the most important social structure in this world.  

The choice of a lifetime marriage partner is certainly one of the most important decisions a person can make.  

Every family is unique, with each marriage partner bringing experiences and values from his or her own family.   Unfortunately , there is no perfect marriage.  

There are, however principles that, if followed will help each family to be all that God intended to be.

1.  First is the foundation of love.  Jesus demonstrated this principle by laying down his "rights" when he came to earth to live as a man and died on the cross.  If we truly love our spouses and our children, we would be willing to lay down our lives so that they might live in some emergency situation. The true test, however , is if we lay down our rights and demands on others in the everyday situations of life.  Love is proven not just by the words we say, but also by our actions.

2.  Second, is the foundation of respect.  Family.members must show respect for each other; even when there is disagreement on a particular matter.  This is where healthy communication plays an important role.  If we offend in any way, we need to quickly ask for forgiveness.

3.  Third, is the foundation of commitment.  No matter what happens, commitment is necessary for a family to survive.  There are many voices in contemporary society that tell us if the marriage is not working, just get out. But this is not the solution.  God is the solution and help can be found through prayer, studying God's word, and the wise counsel of those who love God.

4.  Fourth, before you marry, be at peace with your own family as much as is possible. Unresolved conflicts will often be reflected later in the relationship you have with your husband or wife, children, and in-laws.  Ask forgiveness of those who have offended and forgive those who have offended you, no matter how deeply you have been hurt.  

5.  Freedom comes when we learn to forgive others in the same way that God has forgiven us.  

Everyday ways to be an awesome member of your family!

Get Informed - Ask an adult in your family what they remember most about being a teenager.  

What was the hardest part for them?

Get Connected - Ask a family member about their day.  

What was the best part? What didn't go so well or was really though?

Get Wisdom - Ask a wise member  for advice and listen to their counsel.  

Maybe they don't live nearby.  

Send an email or write a letter or use social media like Facebook.

They'll be happy to hear from you!

Get Bold - Admit.to something you have done or said to hurt a family member and ask for forgiveness.

Get Dirty - Do a chore around without being asked.

Warning: This activity may cause shocked mothers to faint. :D

What is Love? and How to Love the right way?

What is love for me?

Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. Love begins with a journey. Love gives you a sense of peace, helps you make everything-the good and the bad-acceptable, and it can inspire you to be the best person you can be. Love is giving, compassionate and unselfish, yet it isn't blind. Love is skillfully evasive.  Love requires daily affirmation. Love is God. That's my own definition.

Love is a decision, a choice we each must make.  The greatest demonstration of love is to give our lives to the person we love.  I believe that every one of us knows how to love. Because we have the longing inside of us since we were born. The desire of being loved, and share the love within us to others.  But Not all the people know how to love in a right way or properly. Now the question is how to love properly? Read it below:

• Find a romantic Love

1.     Decide what you want from your relationship. 

2.     Offer things for your Love.

3.     Meet different kinds of people.

4.     Let yourself be weak with other people

5.     Don’t force love and don’t try to speed it up.

• Make your relationship last

1.     Have a commitment.

2.     Learn lessons and apply it all to your relationships.

3.     If you are wrong, apologize.

4.     Work hard and continuously to make yourself and those you love more.

5.     Do not be jealous because of petty things.

6.     Try to see issues from every side. Don’t just listen to yourself.

7.     Be partners all the time.

• Avoid Common Relationship Problems

1.     Never try to manipulate someone’s feelings.

2.     Remember, no one is perfect, so is your Partner.

3.     Find good ways to deal with your stress or problems.

4.     Always try new things and pursuing new experiences together.

5.     Keep your focus on the things that actually matter.

6.     No one is better than you and you are not better than anyone else.

• Love also your Friends and Family

1.     Work hard at your relationships.

2.     Earn the respect of others.

3.     Love people for who they really are.

4.     Find the true beauty(inside and out) in others.

5.     Embrace the negatives and Focus on the positives.

• Always Communicate and be open

1.     Before loving anyone else, you have to love yourself.

2.     Appreciate this moment.

3.     Don’t be too selfless.

4.     Do the things in life that make you happy.

5.     Love God and believe he loves you 

"LOVE LIFE LOVE SOMEONE, BUT LOVE GOD ABOVE ALL"

Peace of Mind

One of the greatest skills available to everyone is to live quietly, serenely and peacefully of oneself.  It is inside of us human being, It is inside our mind that pain and conflict occur.  We live in the world of stress, trouble, conflict, and noise.  

Having a peace of mind doesn't really mean that everything in our life becomes light and easy.  But I believe that we are able to handle those stress, etc inwardly controlled and quiet.

The text in Isaiah 26:3 suggests the way in which by his is done.  

"You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you."  It means, when you get your mind off your conflicts and to God with trusting Him, you will master the skill of living at peace with yourself. 

Sometimes we pay attention and become inward depending on what inwardly we think. 

If you have negative or not peaceful thoughts, you are not really going to be peaceful.

If you think confidently and calmly, you will become confident and calm.  

We must learn to control and discipline our thinking.  

The first thing to do to live with peace in a tumult world is to fill your mind with thoughts of peace.  The second thing is to don't take yourself seriously because if you do, you can ultimately get to a point where you almost imagine that all civilization falls on what you do. As i see, and as i think that we are taught to love the people around us, serve the Lord, do the best you can do---and then, "having done all," as Saint Paul says, (Ephesians 6:13).

The one and only control that will guarantee a person's ability to live at peace with himself is, in my humble judgment, to live with Jesus Christ.  

If a person has Jesus deep in mind and has in him that "mind...which was also in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 2:5), then he thinks the kind of thoughts that Christ thought.   

If he has Jesus in his heart, he is confident and serene.   

Knowing that no matter comes in way of the pain, difficulty, sorrow, opposition or even death. Jesus is with him----our everlasting Friend.

The more you struggle for a peace of mind, the less likely you will ever get it. 

The resulting sense of cleanness will add to your inner peace.   It is also really helpful to use lines from poetry, or passages from the Scriptures. Every one of us wants inner peace. And we all can have it.

John 14:27:  Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

Surely no words more beautiful than these we uttered.  Always remember that peace that comes through Jesus Christ ---the only kind worth having---is the very source of the power we need for meeting the responsibilities in our lives. :)

A Good Decision and Change

THERE IS A YEARNING DESIRE INSIDE OF US.   It is a desire that nothing in this world can top up.  It is a desire that God created inside our heart from the very beginning.  Only God can fill this desire.  Only God can show a love that never been shown to you.

God can make you complete, and it starts with a relationship with Jesus.  God sent Jesus to be our Savior. A savior is someone who helps people achieve salvation and rescues you.

Everyone needs rescue from the immoral things and wrong things we do, which are sins. We all fall short of the standard of holiness set by our God.  We always can try to achieve this by doing nice things to others, being good, but that is like reaching for the unreachable. It's impossible. We cannot save ourselves.

Good news is God isn't waiting around for us to clean ourselves up; that is something he will definitely help you with.

God sent Jesus here to Earth to save us. Jesus took the judgment and punishment we only deserve when he died on the cross. 

Even though while we were sinners, he died for us, That's how much Jesus love us.  

In three days, he came back to life, proven he has all the authority, even over the death.  

He was sent by God, and he is with you right now, even though we do not see him by our naked eyes.

Jesus' part was to take the punishment on the cross and your part is to believe and act on what Jesus did by admitting our sins, coming to him for forgiveness, and ask him to be your Savior, your rescuer.  

 If you are saying 'yes' to all these things, then tell Jesus.  

Just turn your heart and mind to Jesus and talk.  

 If you need help in what you have to say, you can pray along as you read this prayer:

 " Jesus, I believe that you were sent by God to take the punishment I deserved and to be my Savior.  Please forgive me and free me from my sin.  Come into my life and fulfill the longing in my heart that I have had for so long.  Guide me to understand and follow your ways.  Thank you for hearing and answering my prayers.  I love you, Jesus.  In your name, I pray. Amen."

I'm praying this prayer every night since I was in 6th grade and I prayed with all my heart. Hope you do that too. Every after I pray this then I will feel so safe and guided by the Lord. God Bless you.  You'll be saved and blessed! Amen.

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The Best Self-Esteem

When you look in the mirror, what is the first thing that you tell yourself?  

Did you experienced wishing that you are someone else or someone better?  

If yes, it's just a normal feeling.  Maybe most of us who have ever lived thought and wished that we could change things about ourselves: the eyes, body, nose, our height, personality, etc. 

Every morning, when I'm off to somewhere Before I go, I look in the mirror and say "I am Beautiful! It really helps me boost confidence because I know for God that I am, his beautiful princess. Money, Fame, Appearance, Wealth, status, and the latest version of iPhone. 

These things have one thing in common which is they are not guaranteed. 

Even if you have those things, they are all temporary.   Because when our self-worth depends on our outward aspects of life, fulfillment and happiness will always not last long I believe that the true worth can only be measured by seeing ourselves through God our Creator's eyes.  

How much value does he place in your life?  

Did you know that God loves you just as much as he loves his son Jesus!?  

You can't get anymore worth than that! 

Check it out in verse John 17 When Jesus finished saying these things, he looked up to heaven and said, “Father, the time has come.  Glorify your Son, so that the Son can glorify you. You gave him authority over everyone so that he could give eternal life to everyone you gave him.  This is eternal life: to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you sent. I have glorified you on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do. 

Now, Father, glorify me in your presence with the glory I shared with you before the world was created.

Here are 12 Ways to Look and Feel Your Best

Do you feel like very lonely, depressed or thinking to give up on your dreams? Then this is for you. Realize now that you are B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L. 

You are TALENTED and UNIQUE creation of God.  You indeed belong to a life fulfilled with love for yourself and for those around you as well.

11. Having positive relationships - With an open communication, it is healthy and needed for our positive progress. A strong relationship and communication, whether through your family, friends, co-church members, local community, or lover, will hold you responsible for your own health and well being. It will definitely provide you with true, sincere and caring people you can count on in times of need or negative shift. (Don’t forget about this blog that will brighten your life every day! )

10. Stop comparing yourself to others. Whenever you try to compare yourself to others, you are like devaluing yourself. Realize your self-worth. Because i believe it can even help improve your net worth!

9. Wear your beautiful smile. It is essential to your happiness and self-esteem. Studies have shown that smiling more even by force, can genuinely decrease stress, and also has many other benefits. It will not only make your mood rise, you’ll do the same for others. Remember that as we smile more and empower ourselves, we shine a light for others to follow. Shine bright like a diamond! Then, they may also give themselves permission to smile more and more.

8. Never put or build yourself up by putting others down. It doesn't work. Believe me.

7. Complimenting yourself. It's a nice way to give yourself importance and love are by practicing called“mirror work” like what I'm doing every time I'm off to somewhere. First, Just Walk right up to a mirror, and tell something like “Your face looks beautiful so much today ” to “I love how unique and wonderful person you are!” or "You are worth loving!"

6. Carry yourself well. Be confident. Always remember that you were handmade by God. 

5. Look beyond you, appreciate and celebrate the accomplishment of others.

4. Cut back on the sugar and drink plenty of water! Eat healthy, organic. whole foods, (fruits and vegetables) for better health, better moods, and a happier digestive system that will thank you for eating this way. 

3. Get enough sleep. Short nights can weaken your immune system and result in unproductive days. Also, read Guidelines for Sleeping Right.

2. Stay active every day. You can also exercise, do yoga, meditate, or you may even read your favorite book to stay active.

1. Get closer to God and know everything about him. Always pray and have faith. Start here.

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How do you Measure Success? (The True Success)

Our Success is defined and measured differently by God.  God's measure of our success is with our faithfulness to Him, his measure of our success is if we are being loyal to Him or not in our relationship with God and whether we are accomplishing God's goals and purposes for our life. 

He gains our ability to understand His beautiful ways and we also gain a rich prayer life and we start to operate from His perspective as we see the things in life like the way He does. 

Jesus said that the reason he came down to Earth was so that everyone would have the fullest life possible. Isn't that what you want? 

The fullest life possible? Another time he promised that when we obey to God as our first priority, all the things we need in this world will be provided for us. Yes, For us.  God is all about SUCCESS including your Success.

Nowadays, the standards for success are measured by the level of education we have attained, the amount of money we have in the bank, the size of our house or lots, or how much material possessions we own.

Most people do define success in terms of achieving obtaining wealth, our goals, having prestige, favour, and power. 

It is a fact that most people do enjoy a well living life being emotionally and financially secure, being surrounded by fans or admirers, and enjoying the results of hard work or labor. 

Their like or example is emulated and multiplies.  Many people take a heed of their accomplishments.  It's like the definitions of success matters and deal only with the "at this very moment; at the present time" of life. 

Education is important; we should go for all that is available to us.  And there's nothing really wrong with a good career, life and wealth that we have.  

But in reality, it is how we treat other people and what we do with our education and money that people will remember long after we are gone, that is more important.

True success can only be measured at the end of our lives by how we used what we had to serve society and honor God.  This is only the kind of success that can never be taken away from you.  

It is priceless.

Well for you, How do you measure success?  Let us say you had a lot of money, you are very rich and have so many business. 

Anything that you wanted, you could buy.   Now, you'd probably have a pretty long shopping list. And with all that money, many people would say that you are successful.  But what about the other lists? The real list of things that money can't buy.  The list that comes from the heart. 

The real list probably includes: you desired to be loved; you want your family to get along and happy; you need to be accepted just the way you are.  

And you want that hole in your heart filled, which only God can do.

Work for true success and that is none other than success of the heart.

Read verse Matthew 5:44-45 for ways to do this

44"But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,

45 "So that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 

43 "Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy.

Matthew 6:25-34 New International Version (NIV)
Do Not Worry
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?

26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?

27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.

29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?

31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’

32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.

33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

You have read my own views about Success.  Now I want to know, How do you measure Success?